How to Build a Positive Inner Circle in Business and Life
How do you go about building a positive inner circle in the workplace? Well, that’s what we are discussing in today’s episode.
With our complex and changing world, it's more important than ever to build a positive inner circle.
In This Episode, You Will Learn About:
Inner circle: 3 questions to ask yourself
Finding the right people for your inner circle
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Having a Positive Inner Circle
How do you go about building a positive inner circle, whether it’s in your professional or personal life? With our complex and changing world, it’s more important than ever to build a positive inner circle. This is a group of people you can rely on to help you through thick and thin, and will always be with your best intentions at heart.
Building a positive inner circle begins with being intentional about who we associate with. You want to surround yourself with people who are positive, upbeat, and supportive. Just like cars need the right amount of fuel to run smoothly, people need the right amount of positive energy to function well.
When you think about your inner circle at work or in your personal life, who fills up your tank? Who are the people you are pouring into? One of the most meaningful things that we can do in life is to pour into others. We create opportunities for growth and support. We build a foundation for meaningful interactions and lasting relationships when we invest our time and energy in others, we make a difference that can last a lifetime.
We are building relationships that can support a system through thick and thin, and we are filling up other people’s tanks so they can go out and make a difference in the world. When we pour into others, we model what it means to care for others. We show that we care more about just ourselves. We create an atmosphere of community and support that is life giving. Most importantly, when we pour into others, we invest in the future. We are helping to create a generation of people who know how to love and support one another. We are setting the stage for positive change in the world, be there for people when they need you, and being willing to lend a listening ear is how we can pour into others.
Also, look at who are the people that drain your energy and make you feel exhausted after being around them as if a siphon is hooked up to you and they’re taking all that gas and energy out of you. After being around you, do people feel energized or exhausted?
Too much negativity can be like a siphon sucking the gas right out of us, leaving us feel drained and discouraged. It’s important to stay mindful of those people who surround ourselves with and to choose wisely whom we let into our inner most circles. When someone in your inner circle is driving into the drama triangle, don’t be afraid to speak up. Get them back on track by asking them what you can do to help. By maintaining these healthy relationships, you’ll be able to create a positive work environment for yourself that is conductive to success.
Identifying Your Support System
When you’re looking at the people in your innermost circle, who are the people who are pessimistic in your life? A pessimistic person is someone who sees the negative in every situation. They’re always quick to point out the things that could go wrong. They often have a very negative outlook on life. Having a pessimistic attitude can have a negative effect in all areas of our life. And in our career, the effect could be that we do not pursue what we want out of fear of failing. We tend to focus on what could go wrong versus what could go right. We engage in negative self-talk. We find it easier to live in the status quo.
Pessimistic people can be really draining and can have a serious impact on our mood. Pessimism cna make us feel down and discouraged, and it can rob us with our joy and happiness. If you find yourself around a pessimistic person, it’s best to avoid them. Do not engage in any arguments or discussions with them as if it will only lead to frustration on both parties. If you find yourself in a quest in a conversation with somebody who is pessimistic and possibly going off track, redirect them into a different topic or in the conversation. The last thing we want to do is get into a conversation with somebody who is pessimistic and continue to go down that downward spiral while all we’re thinking about is the negative, especially if we are experiencing change, whether in our professional or personal life, that does not serve us.
How do you find an inner circle in your workplace or in your personal life that can trust and encourage each other to stay motivated?
The first is to find your people. This means finding others who share the same values and interests. When you surround yourself with like-minded individuals, you create a positive inner circle that supports and motivates you. The second is build strong relationships. These relationships should be supportive and encouraging, providing a healthy balance of accountability and comfort. The third is sharing openly. This means being honest about your goals, success, and failures. By sharing openly you create a safe space for vulnerability and encouraging others to do the same. Our inner circle of friends, whether professionally or personally, became a source of support when faced with uncertainty, going through a difficult time or feeling overwhelmed.
Our inner circle, it can be the foundation to helping us adapt to change, to helping us thrive through change, to helping us in achieving our goal. So when you’re looking at the type of people that you invite into your life, or even the people that are already in your life and maybe you’re reevaluating, this might be a good time to kind of walk through and asking yourselves, how does this individual impact the emotions of what I’m feeling right now? Are they living in that drama triangle? Are they pessimistic or is it somebody that you trust, somebody that has a positive outlook, somebody that can see that you’re hurting inside and can help pull you out of it, can be a lending ear to help support you and listen, but can also help pull you out, and also doing the same for others?
If you know somebody who’s kind of going through a situation where they’re reevaluating the people that are in their life, and if they are, that’s okay because we will tend to do a reevaluation every couple of years as we grow as individuals, as life circumstances change.
